The Cry of Help

When you do not connect to other people's emotions, there is no way you can experience their sadness, or perceive their hard and terrifying experiences. Even though they are sometimes hard to digest, I couldn't go through life not comprehending why others act in a certain way. What is their truth behind their actions, and why some are reaping dislikes, sorrow, bitterness, abandonment and finally walking towards a eventual surrender.

I have seen very closely, the cry of Help. And , it is one of the most saddest moments I have experienced.   I believe that we all have within the power to take control of our lives, the intelligence of finding a way to change the course of our experience. But I can now see clearly, that not everybody has the courage to give such an important step, not everyone has the containment of good people around. The arrival of fear, does not allow any light of faith.

I can understand also, that for some, acknowledging their past actions, their mistakes and bad elections,  it would imply such a deep and agonizing pain, that they would prefer not realizing it at all, mainly because without the strength to move forward and forget the past, they would fall even more into the desperation, guilt and rage and even their beginning of their slow death.

Falling into the darkness of life,the abyss of pain and regret and the comprehension that life itself has been wasted behind the superficial enchantment of  power, money, sex and the abuse of drugs and alcohol  is a stark reality that many prefer not to accept and therefore live in denial, not only harming themselves but those around them.

It is a challenge not to fall in despair when overwhelming situations of life come to us, it is a challenge to accompany others in their sorrow, and a challenge to seek the best for ourselves.  A challenge worthwhile.

I will keep encouraging myself and the people I come across life to follow this path. The road to enlightenment, the way to improve our inner self and the possibility to enjoy fully all the great adventures, moments and marvels that life has to offer us every day.

Sad Songs Say So Much

I found myself meditating about the fact that most of the time I choose sad songs to sing or play in the guitar, and I came to the conclusion that the truth is that my heart has been broken too many times. I have suffered with my existance and often felt out of place, even though I had plenty of resourses to fit in most situations and people groups. Fortunately these feelings didn't create any  bitterness in me. On the contrary, I am  drawn to give love and peace to others.

I believe that all this turmoil and disorientation of my own purpose of living, has always been sublimated with love, passion, faith and the creation of peaceful, memorable moments, and above all, enriched experiences with also deep emotional people. Sometimes I have laughed with myself realizing that I have a special magnet towards deep, complex and emotional perplex humans beings. As the famous quote in Spanish says " Dios Los Cria, ellos se juntan" . Which it can be translated as an old English saying: "Birds of a feather Flock Together"

At some point I can see myself as a quite depressive person, but that it just a side of who I am, being like this helps me connect with other peoples sufferings and also appreciate deeply all the wonders of life.

There is also a great amount of effervescent happiness and whirlwind of joy and fun in my essence, sometimes hard to let it out to enjoy it profoundly.

Hopefully, the day will come, where  I will be able to let go of some essential responsabilities I have today,in order to enjoy fully just being "Me". Finally being free from social ties, and  from playing the game of "Life", to fit in.  I hope, That I can be wise enough to get this done.

In the meantime I will keep enjoying the music and all the emotions that I can express with my singing, I will keep on being spontaneous and authentic and finding the best way to surround myself with people consciously awaken with whom I can feel comfortable and relaxed.

Living the Life of Your Dreams

Once you’ve realize that life can be seen through different eyes, more aware of all that surround us, the experience of living turns out to be magnificent. Every day is a new beginning, a chance to enjoy what comes up to us. The connection between you and the outer world links a series of new unimaginable events. You become oneness with the world and the universe, and you notice that you have a special, unique role in the whole. Your body sensations turn animated, no longer feeling numb.  Our capacity to be surprised increases and you find joy in little things that before couldn’t be appreciated.

So the question is, I imagine; how do we arrive to this state?

First of all I need to advice you that I am not a quitter, when the results I get are not the ones expected, I keep on searching for success. I don’t let frustration invade my passion and determination to achieve that for what I am looking for. There is always a way around things, we need to become creative, using our full potential and all those resources within to get to our goal.

Focus in the Present Moment. It is deeply necessary to move forward from our past and let go of all those expectations we create about our future. As the quote says “The past is no longer here, the future is uncertain, we only have the present moment”. Thus, focusing in what we have NOW is one of the major keys to take into consideration. 

Connect to how you feel. Pay attention to all those emotions that you demonstrate in front of different situations. Get to know you better; who you really are, your desires, your goals, your dreams.

Make a plan. Design your life. Set some achievable short term goals. Those goals will motivate you to keep on making changes for future achievements. Find the purpose on those goals. Why do I want to get to that result? How will it affect my life? How will I feel when I get there?  Be certain about what you will be focusing in.

Put all your energy into that plan. Leave aside whatever interferes with it. Surround yourself with people that will encourage you in that direction and will accompany you with love and generosity.  Get toxic situations or people out of the way.

Trust yourself. You can make it happen. Don’t let anyone tell you otherwise.

Live with passion.  When all that you do, you connect to it, and even if there is something in particular that you do not like to do so much, you find a way to enjoy it, it will become easier to cope with it and you will then feel satisfied with the results.

Give.  The way to really feel fulfilled and to get that fuel that helps us keep on moving into our target, is contributing into something that serves the greater good. Do whatever it is in your possibilities to help or assist others.

Adapting these steps in your daily life will definitely get you closer to the life you desire.  It will automatically change your state of mind and you will become happy and at peace. Every day your awareness and positive emotions will increase making you more conscious about all that surrounds you.

Do not lose your drive. You Can Make it Happen.  

Eloping from Solitude

I have experienced in the past the necessity of running away from the solitude of being alone. The pain and discomfort of spending time with me was deep, my heart ached with despair, my mind was tangled with confusion and the loud silence around me harassed my soul. I was indeed going through a rough time and had no peace whatsoever within.

Fortunately those days are over now, and the awareness of getting to know myself and loving me for who I really am, detached the fear of solitude.

It is a sad place to be and I can sense now, that what I felt some others do as well, in a lighter or heavier way than me. For all of you that are going through a similar experience, I say, eloping from it won’t solve the problem. We must embrace and accept our fears and so, give meaning to our own self.

It is often impossible for our minds to understand what purpose certain events have in our life. But there are no random events, all is for a reason, thus being stuck in issues won’t let us be free from them. What happens refers to a suchness of the moment, which is as it is. What we can do is take action and be aligned with what is, the present moment, and forge a nonresistance relationship with it.

I found this wise quote that can pretty much show what it is on my mind today:

“Being solitary is being alone well: being alone luxuriously immersed in doings of your own choice, aware of the fullness of your own presence rather than of the absence of others, because solitude is an achievement.”Alice Koller

Sometimes we decide to go on hilarious trips to change scenery, or fill all our spare time surrounded by people in order to avoid being by our own, or even create an imaginary parallel reality of what is actually going on, this may help at a certain point, but what we really need to focus on is in the advantage of being lonely to connect with ourselves.

The outside silence is an opportunity to hear our inner voice, our needs or emotions. We are so immersed in the madness of the stressful world we live in that we do not stop to see what is going on with our own little private world.

This doesn't mean that by avoiding the world, we will attain clarity and simplicity, but our mind do needs some silent meditation. So if you are in a sad moment, just remain quiet, ease your mind. Discover the harmony in your own being. Embrace it.

The Ultimate Goal

A few days ago I was chatting with a former NLP classmate and he asked me about my ultimate goal in life.
In spite of being quite a deep question, I answered him, what came to my mind in the blink of a secod.

-"When my Life will come to an end I would want to look back and Smile "

Obviously this desired goal leads to a vast variety of independent objectives of my life that in the sum of all of them will represent my ultimate goal.

Once my conversation was over,  I started enumerating to myself which specific situations or achievements would make me reach that aim.  Probably what generalizes my phrase is to Enjoy The Journey through life. But I consider that this could be somehow misunderstood by the listener. Since, this means to me something far more profound.

This is what I came up with, which however, in this dizzying life, constantly evolving, can be sometimes hard to follow rigorously, but definately worth the try.

• Pushing my boundries towards displaying my full potential. ( as a mother, a as woman, as a worker etc)
• Taking a leap of Faith in Me and the people I love
• Living a Meaninful Life ( not just for me, but for others lives too)
• Living according to my values and beliefs.
• Always Moving Forward with courage, passion and a Smile in my face.
• Forgiving Myself for mistakes and forgiving others as well.
• Be open to change, to evolve, to grow to learn constanly.
• Allowing always a space for fun and being the child within myself.
• Allowing myself to be vulnerable.
• Loving and enjoying Life to the fullest.
• Working towards achieving my lifestyle, my personal, family and business goals.

These would be my general guide which Iwill base in order to achieve my ultimate goal someday...

Looking forward to it.. whenever the time is right!