We may feel lonely even when we belong to a group of friends that always stick together, or live in the nest of a home welcoming family.
Solitude is a much deeper feeling that visit us uninvited from within.
We self talk ourselves that maybe we are not comprehended or we make excuses saying that we are conditioned by some kind of innate craziness. We expect to much of others and we end up disappointed by them. So then, we just let go of those relationships little by little without saying much. Still, loneliness lurks.
What are our options to avoid this emptiness of feeling the pain of being the Lonely Bug? These are some of my personal suggestions:
- Love Yourself: When you are at peace with your own self and you enjoy your own company, you probably will never feel lonely again.
"To love oneself is the beginning of a life-long romance." Oscar Wilde
- Don't Expect from Others: When you expect and then you don't receive what you have expected, this can be really disappointing, thus, the relationship will automatically be affected. We need to learn that we are all different creatures, we came form different experiences, and we see reality with our own filters. It is narrow minded to believe that we will all see things with the same perspective.
" Anger always comes from frustrated expectations" Elliot Larson
- Don't Be Attached: When you are attached to something or someone, you depend on that to fulfill your own needs. By doing this you enable something external to control your own life.Inner harmony can only be reach only when you are free from attachment.
"Grasping at things can only yield one of two results:
Either the thing you are grasping at disappears, or you yourself disappear.
It is only a matter of which occurs first." Goenka
- Dedicate Time to your hobbies: When you have a hobby or practice and activity with passion, time reference will never be the same. It is one of the best ways to fill in spare time! Many times we leave on the side those things we love the most because we do not have the time or the money to spend. Well, if we quit in our own passions, nothing else will matter and in the end we will feel upset, lonely and disappointed with our own life.
If you do not know what's your passion yet.. GO AND LOOK FOR IT ASAP!
I find these rules useful to my life, and I consider that if we accomplish my first suggestion, the rest will fall into place...
If you feel a Lonely Bug, well.. that could be somehow great if you find a way to see the beauty in it!